Hey #230: What’s the rush?
Think about it.
What’s the rush?
This question registers as complacency or laziness to a mind which doesn’t know how to slow down.
The same question appears as an enabler to a mind which is stuck in the self-sabotaging tendency of inaction.
Then there’s another kind of mind for which the same question is beyond complacency and enablement.
This mind understands rush is a mechanism to avoid the depth of suffering.
Be it the suffering of being stuck in a situation for long. Or be it the suffering of having to do something to get unstuck.
Either way, it’s a loop of suffering. And rush, despite seemingly useful persona, keeps running this loop.
“What’s the rush?” appears to be insensitive. Because it’s like asking someone with a bleeding hand, but what’s the rush to get a bandage?
However, when you really think about the meaning behind the question, it separates you from the realm of sensitivity and insensitivity, and brings you to the vast open grounds of awareness.
The awareness which prompts you to look at the intention behind what you want.
If you allow yourself some time and patience to mingle with this awareness, you’ll realize that your intentions are really all about achieving certain results. Be it better relationships, career, money, peace, health, quality of life…
That result-orientedness leads to urgency. Henceforth emerges the rush which manifests into a denial towards the current reality where the desired results are absent, and a fixation on the ideal reality where the desired results are present.
Such a denial enforces urgency even more.
It’s like you’re alone and trying to cross a narrow bridge between two peaks, but you’re not opening your eyes so that you don’t have to see the scary heights. That way, it’s impossible to move ahead. The wide gap between both peaks remains intact. And the urge to arrive at the other side of the bridge keeps fueling your urgency.
That’s exactly when these three words come handy:
What’s the rush?
Because these words, no matter how frustrating, encourage the person to open their eyes, to look at what’s really going on, to realize how their own denial is prolonging their suffering and keeping them away from their desired reality.
You want to have a better relationship with your partner.
Okay. But what’s the rush? Let’s first see all the ways in which your relationship with your partner is causing you pain.
You want to grow your finances and have a successful career.
Great. But what’s the rush? Let’s first acknowledge all the fears and insecurities which you’ve been trying to avoid by becoming successful.
You want to lose weight and feel confident in your body.
Cool. But what’s the rush? Let’s first understand what it means for you to continue being overweight and not having confidence.
You want to stop people-pleasing, and start taking a stand for yourself.
Awesome. But what’s the rush? Let’s first discover all that people-pleasing triggers in you.
You want to have a better hold on your emotions.
Perfect. But what’s the rush? Let’s first spend time with the situations where your emotions overpower you.
The resistance which arises from the practice of staying with the current reality is the key to unlock the desired reality.
Because addressing that very resistance naturally decelerates the urgency.
Once the urgency is lowered, you stop running away in denial.
What you don’t run away from, surrenders itself into change. Such is the law of existence.
As a result, the things you wanted to change by putting in all your rush and urgency — automatically end up changing without any rush and urgency.
Experience it to believe in it.
Keep looking deeper,
Ashi
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